I spend a lot of my time asking “How?”
How do you want me to do this?
How should I do that?
How do I open this jar when I am home alone?
Seriously, I’ve Googled that. Despite everything the internet said, I gave it good smack on the edge of the counter and voila! I’m not really sure what I would do without google, because I’m constantly searching for the best, most reliable way to do things practically every day.
The best, the cheapest, the healthiest, the easiest, the warmest, the most beautiful…
You get the idea. It’s a nearly inexhaustive list.
I say all of that to say this: the answer to your most challenging “how to” questions is really simple.
Do it the way YOU would do it.
I cannot account here, either because lack of space or lack of memory, the infinite number of times I have searched a “how to” question, only to go with my gut in the end.
How do you live abroad? – You buy a plane ticket and go.
How do you pay down your student loans? – Literally, you just pay them.
How do you backpack? – You put a bag on your back with the essentials and go.
How to make crockpot chicken curry? – Okay, maybe this one allows for a little google assistance for the less culinarily-inclined (like myself).
How, how, how, how, how?
Here’s a new question, Why?
Why is it so important that I have an answer to every “how” question I ask?
Personally, there is a part of me that doesn’t want to do something wrong. For example, living abroad can be scary, being in debt is not fun, getting lost on the trail is dangerous, and bad curry is just sad curry.
I apologize for yet another question, but since when has there ever been only one way of doing something? I’ve dealt with the fear of living over seas, managed (somewhat cynically) my student loans, gotten lost on the trail, and even made (and ate) bad curry!
You know what? I’m still alive.
Sometimes I think I’m looking not for the answer to “how,” but for the no-fail option. I’ll be the first to say it doesn’t exist. However, when you come to this realization it is liberating. There isn’t a guillotine hovering over your head waiting to drop the instant you make a “wrong “decision.
Maybe you make a decision with more cons than pros and you move on.
Lately, I have wondered if I should have stayed in China longer. Or if I should look for a different job now. Or if I should just quit everything, sell everything and go live in a van to travel around the US. Is there a right answer and a wrong answer?
I don’t believe there is. There is only the decision you make. Your reasons for making it are entirely your own, but that does not change the fact that it is what it is.
Nothing more, nothing less.
Until next time!